You are OK

It's great, you are reading this post. I highly appreciate it. You are a special person and for sure: you are OK!

Everyone is OK …. Does this starts to be tough to agree upon? I kind of hear some of you starting to disagree. This is a natural reaction, so let us make a step back and think about it.

Nature has given us tools and methods to help us survive, some of these are older than mankind. When meeting another being we have a few moments to decide how we are going to react to its presence. Is there trust, fear, respect, aggression? This quick evaluation of the situation will also be an evaluation of the other. We tend to classify in those we like or not, those we trust or not or in those we find intelligent or not. At least I have a tendency to do that.

How does this relate with the statement that people are OK?

Independently from any evaluation we might be applying to a person we can have a fundamental acceptance of the other. In that case the person as such is valuable, has importance and dignity; it will be independent from age, religion, culture or sex.

This applies to the person as such, not to his or her behavior.

For me, this was the clue. The evaluation I was making when meeting someone related to the behavior I could see and feel, whereas I had no idea about the person as such.

If you want to connect with your pears, expand your network or want to grow the number of customers, accepting other people as being OK will be a major asset as it helps you to keep an open mind and find the elements where you can connect.

Whenever you approach someone as a valuable person and acknowledge his or her importance and dignity you will find that the relation is strong and encouraging because this person becomes someone special for you.

Think and feel how this makes yourself special!

You too are an important, worthwhile, valuable person in your own right.


  1. I like the way you are presenting this topic. For sure this is an OK way to invite people to consider the others as OK independently to their behaviors, which sometimes are not-OK.

  2. Françoise Hontoy says:

    Thank you Jean-Pierre. The challenge I’m taking here is to find an OK way to explain selected parts of theory, coaching education (e.g. impact training in Luxembourg) which don’t need all the theoretical background to be useful and help to make this world a better place.